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Have you heard this one?
There was a woman who constantly complained about everything. One day her neighbor complimented her on her potato crop because it was the best one in the area. She responded with a frown, “True they’re pretty good, but what am I going to do when I need some bad ones to feed the pigs?”
You probably know a person like this—someone who can’t see the light in any situation. The constant mode is complaining, and you cringe at the thought of asking this person a simple “how are you?”
Perhaps the negative Nellie in your life is someone you know better than anyone:
Two construction workers eat lunch together. Day after day, one of the men opens his bag to find a meatloaf sandwich and complains: “Another meatloaf sandwich?” Eventually, his friend can’t restrain himself: “Why don’t you just ask your wife to make you something else?” “What are you talking about?” the first man responds. “I make my own lunch!”
Whether you’re surrounded by complaining or you infect the air yourself, there is a cost that comes with focusing on problems without looking for solutions.
Cortisol (the stress hormone) spikes, and it decreases your brain’s cognitive function (you know, the part that helps you find solutions to problems).
In today’s episode, we cover the reasons for complaining, how to tough love your friends who indulge a little bit too much, and how to guard your time and your sanity from the negativity.
Tune in to find out the sure-fire method for eliminating complaining from your life.
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Resources from this Episode
- The Squeaky Wheel: Complaining the Right Way to Get Results, Improve Relationships, and Enhance Self-Esteem, by Gary Winch, Ph.D.
- Complaining for Your Health (The Atlantic)
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