How do you know the difference between an opinion and good advice?
Sometimes it’s not so easy to tell. Warren has what we call his “authoritative voice,” which sounds like he knows what he’s talking about. Early in our dating life, I’d ask a question and he’d reply in this deep voice. I thought it conveyed knowledge and wisdom. And he sounded so smart! That is, until one day he said something I knew wasn’t true.
He was just trying to impress me with his best guess dressed up as experience.
Warren said he always had an opinion on a subject, and if asked any question he’d give it, whether it was an educated one or not. It was up to me to determine if it was a useful answer or not.
And you know what? He’s right.
There are TONS of people out there giving you advice on a daily basis: parents, teachers, friends, in-laws, the media, coworkers, and even that person you forgot you friended on Facebook.
Mention a problem, a goal, or even good news, and people swarm like flies to tell you the best way to handle it.
Overwhelm happens fast. You may find it hard to tell the difference between bad advice given in an authoritative voice or good advice given in a whisper.
How to Get Good Advice
This episode is for you if you:
- Have news that everyone will soon know about (wedding, divorce, retirement, promotion, job loss, illness, weight loss/gain, new hairstyle, new house, or pretty much anything that is different from how they knew you before)
- Are on social media or interact with humans in any way at all after they learn of your news
- Wonder if you’ve been guilty of giving bad advice in the past and want to do better going forward
So take a listen to this episode, and if you find yourself “oh yeah-ing” and “you got that right-ing” please share it on Facebook, Pinterest, or Twitter so you can upgrade the kind of advice your friends and family offer in the future. 🙂
(Oh, and that cute matchmaking story we talked about in the episode? You can find it here.)
Get the Tools for Finding Good Advice
And here’s what you get:
- A handy flowchart to help you evaluate advice [PDF]
- A short tutorial on how to get and give good advice to family and friends [Video]
- A private Facebook group to discuss advice-giving and -getting with us and other Life Labbers (among other things)
Life Lab members also get admission to our self-paced courses (like Dream Save Do, which walks you through how to save massive amounts of money in a very short time), and a live monthly workshop, too (this month: Get Your Partner On Board with Your Dream).
If this sounds like an upgrade you’d like, then check it out here. Membership is only $14.95/month and you can cancel at any time.
Trust us, it’s good advice. 🙂
And if this isn’t for you right now, then enjoy this episode and stay tuned for next week, when we talk about “dreaded” midlife crisis!