Editor’s note: Today’s post is a reprint from last year. Yep, I still feel the same way about raising your standards for love and romance all year long.
You heard me. I’m taking it back. No cards, candy, dinner dates, or jewelry for me.
Think about it. Romance only ONE DAY of the year? At the same time everyone else is instructed to have romance (talk about supply and demand)?
We have never really celebrated Valentine’s Day, and I’ll tell you why this works.
- There are no inflated expectations over a single day that make or break your relationship for the next several weeks.
- We strive to have a little bit of romance in our daily lives and regular doses of big romance on our own schedule.
- We save a ton of money that can be used for several smaller dates instead of one big one (you do know that you pay more for everything on Valentine’s Day, right?)
Romance shouldn’t be a once-a-year blowout where the biggest bouquet of flowers or shiniest bauble shows how much you love each other. There is no score to keep when you refuse to set up arbitrary dates like February 14 to show your undying love.
What if one of you is sick (“no really, I have a headache!”), or has a bad day at work, or really just isn’t in the mood to put on a big show? Does it mean you don’t love the other person? Of course not.
So, I’m taking back February 14 as a regular day, a Saturday in this case, and I’m going to do my regular Saturday thing, which includes dinner at home with my husband and some everyday romance and gratitude for each other.
Lower your expectations for February 14 and raise your expectations for romance throughout the year.
“The art of love… is largely the art of persistence.” ~ Albert Ellis