“Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” – George Bernard Shaw
Why don’t we question more things in our lives? Most of us tend to take on the beliefs and ideas of how to live our lives from our family and the environment we grow up in. However, without questioning it seems we will never be able to make our own decisions and create a new lifestyle design. Knowledge comes from simply questioning all aspects of our lives.
For me, I was 32 before I stopped and started asking all the hard questions about my life. Up until that point I was living the life that was expected of me – college, good job, wife, big house, 2 weeks of vacation a year, and a plan from there that was as predictable as the rising sun. While I was always a happy person, I was stuck in someone else’s life. At that point, I started asking some difficult questions on each of my core beliefs:
- Am I happy in this marriage?
- Do we really want kids? Can we make the decision NOT to have them?
- Is my career the most important thing in my life?
- Do I have to believe in god?
- Does buying stuff make me happy?
- Do I have to keep striving for a larger home?
- What are my political affiliations? Do I think differently from my parents?
- Is travel really MY dream?
Looking back now I am shocked at how liberating this process has been. I am finally living my life on my terms based on a purposeful design. The best part is, I have never been happier.
By asking tough questions we are able to make our own decisions in life based on the broad set of information available to us. I challenge you to ask questions as you go through life. Don’t just take things at face value or because those around you say it is so. Try to understand your feelings on different areas in your life. Use this information to create your own path that makes you happy. You will enjoy how freeing the experience can be.
What questions have you asked that have changed your path?