Someone is watching you right now. It could be a coworker, a fellow commuter on the bus or train, or a neighbor. It could be an acquaintance, a very dear friend, or even a close family member. It might even be the clerk at the grocery store, a member of your book club, or your hair stylist.
I can’t tell you who it is, but I can tell you it is happening.
They aren’t watching you for any nefarious reason, and they may not even register that they are paying closer attention until later. They are watching you gradually change in a way that intrigues them, and one day they may tell you about it. Or not. But either way, they are watching, learning, growing.
Maybe you’ve lost weight or started a new hobby or project that inspires you and lights up your face. Or you’ve gained weight or the weight of your obligations is showing on your face. Perhaps you’ve fallen in love or you are navigating a fall out of love. You could be shepherding your children through a particularly rough stage, or maybe you are pushing yourself through the dual joy and sadness of watching them become independent of you. You may be juggling two jobs or one very overloaded one, or you could be basking in the glow of a well-deserved promotion and raise. You could be the main emotional support system to someone in emotional or physical crisis, or you may be on the receiving end of someone else’s love and attention during a time of need.
It doesn’t matter why people are noticing you, only that they are. And you in turn are noticing other people. We all do it; we just rarely ever tell anyone.
Wouldn’t you like to hear that someone thinks you are doing the right thing, enjoying a well-deserved happiness, or glowing from within? Or that your grace with your struggles is inspiring them to live better? Or that they completely understand what you are going through because they’ve done it, too?
Of course you would.
Take a minute to verbalize your thoughts to the people you are watching. It will mean the world to them that you noticed, and it might generate a conversation you’ve been needing to have or allow them to get something off their chests. Be graceful to those who compliment you; don’t downplay your joy or success because you have worked hard to get them.
Be free with genuine compliments. Lend an ear or a shoulder when times are hard. And become comfortable with being an example. Because you are whether you are a good one or a bad one.