Your boss is holding you back at work, picking less talented co-workers for projects and raises that should be yours.
Your partner isn’t pulling his or her weight at home, and it’s why you’re too tired to exercise, take a class, or even remember to brush your teeth some nights before falling into bed.
Your friends are so wrapped up in their lives that they don’t have time to listen to your ideas and problems, and you’re so busy that you rarely have time to see them anyway.
The years are drifting by and you’re not making any progress on creating the life you crave:
Taking the painting class
Getting the promotion
Taking the big trip
Losing 20 pounds
Turning the spare bedroom into a studio
It’s easy to get frustrated over this lack of progress and to blame outside factors and the behavior of other people. If only they weren’t making my life so difficult….
Frustration is an emotional response to a perceived opposition to your will.
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You want something, and it’s not happening.
Who’s really to blame?
It’s them against you, or at least them being inconsiderate of you and making it harder for you to live your dream. Right? Your boss, partner, family, friends, and society in general become the target of your frustration and the ‘reason’ why you’re grinding your jaw to dust.
This kind of ‘aiming and blaming’ is human nature, so don’t feel bad if you’ve fallen into this trap. But it’s still wrong.
I’m going to offer you an alternative to this scenario, one that will ease the frustration you are feeling right now and put you back in the driver’s seat of your life.
But first you have to answer this question honestly:
Are you being clear about what you want to the people in your life?
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Your first response is probably yes. But if you think about it, you will realize there is a big leap between what you say and what you mean, and you’re counting on other people to build the bridge. And when that doesn’t happen, you get frustrated.
But I shouldn’t have to spell it out, you think.
Yes, you should. Why would you make it harder for someone to know what you want?
He should know this by now, you mumble.
How could he, if he’s not a mind reader?
Doesn’t my work speak for itself?
No, your work doesn’t speak.
People often take the safe route because they lack the confidence to say and do what’s in their hearts. What will people think?
Or they want the idea to come from someone else’s mouth, so they plant the seed and hope it will grow. It’s better if he says it first.
How much closer would you be to your dreams if you actually felt comfortable saying them out loud, in plain English, to the people who could best help you make them happen?
Strip Off Your Fear: The Good Girl’s Guide to Saying What Your Want was written exactly for this kind of situation. If you’re the type of person waiting for permission, hoping to be picked, and merely dropping hints about what you want, then this book is for you.
Your frustration comes from not speaking up. Once you learn to say what you want – what you really want – you’ll gain control over your life to get that promotion, take the vacation you want, carve out the time to get in shape, and pursue the passions you’ve been putting off too long.
Frustration and confidence are both within your control, but only one will help you achieve the life you crave. (Click to tweet this)
Click here to take the first step to taking back your voice and confidence in print or eBook. It worked for me, and it can certainly work for you.