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I used to work with a guy who was convinced the “big bosses” hated him. He’d tell me in the break room that Dave gave him the evil eye again, or that Kelly in HR was riding him harder than anyone else about sick days. At lunch he’d complain that Ben put him on call more often than anyone else, and he was convinced Stephen gave him the worst clients so he’d fail.
If I hadn’t been working in the same company, I would have felt really sorry for him. But since I did, I knew he was wrong about everything. The CEO of the company was not giving the evil eye to a lowly clerk—Dave actually had a squint! And Kelly rode everyone hard about sick days because it was a small company and absences were deeply felt. The call rotation was just that—a rotation. The schedule insured that everyone got the same number of call weekends in a year. And last but not least, our client load was based on revenue and size—some people had more smaller accounts and some had fewer big accounts, but we were overall equally balanced.
As he ranted and raved at how unfair life was and how everyone was out to get him, I just shook my head. How could he not see the reality of his situation.
You can probably guess what happened next. He began acting out against these perceived slights—calling in sick more often, acting more belligerent toward the bosses, and shirking his duties with clients. Not surprisingly, he didn’t get on the fast track to promotion with that attitude.
The result of his actions only confirmed what he “knew” all along—except that what he knew was totally wrong, and then he acted on those beliefs so much that he made them true.
This is the danger in listening to the Drama Queen in your head, and in today’s episode, you’ll discover what to say to shut her down before she talks you into taking actions that will damage your life. Click the player at the top to listen to the episode and then click the blue box below to download your free resource guide. This one is:
Next Week you’ll discover the good and bad of comparing yourself to other people (yes, there are ways of acting “jealous” that work in your favor!) Stay tuned to find out next Sunday.
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